A novices help guide to BDSM from somebody into the scene

I’d come crashing and burning out of a decade long abusive relationship and I was pining to explore and reclaim my personal and sexuality sovereignty when I first ventured into the world of BDSM, almost three years ago. We straight away saw the irony that is obvious the problem, and joked about any of it myself: “Woman departs verbally abusive relationship; finds convenience in intimate domination and spanking”. Why would anybody leave a relationship that…