Pay attention empathetically, and allow your mate understand you heard the thing that was stated.

Warning: while you're using your mate's terms with a grain of sodium try not to minmise exacltly what the mate is letting you know. Pay attention empathetically, and allow your mate understand you heard the thing that was said. Just do not shape the remaining you will ever have on which a hurt partner claims, specially in the very first 90 days following the revelation for the event.